The Rule of Elimination : Collectors, Connectors & Chatterboxes
Not All Who Ask Are Friends, Not All Who Greet Are Sweet!
Faces Behind Every 'Get to Know You'
The Hidden Motives Behind Every Hello
Here's The "How"
Who's Really in Your Corner?
Not every person who wants to "know" someone does it for the same reason. Beneath every introduction lies a quiet motive to connect, to filter or to fill time. Understanding this helps protect energy and build meaningful bonds.
◈ The Eliminators : Snakes in the Grass
These are the people who intentionally get close to others, not to connect but to collect. They observe behaviour, work style and lifestyle, quietly noting strengths and flaws. Then, they use that information to manipulate situations, influence opinions or subtly push others out of the picture.
Like "A coworker who befriends a teammate, learns their routines and weaknesses and later uses that insight to outshine or sideline them in front of the boss. Their goal isn’t friendship, it’s quiet elimination."
◈ The Connectors : Friends Through Thick and Thin
These are the ones who genuinely want to build something real. They ask questions, remember details and show up when it matters.
Like "A classmate/colleague who stays in touch, they invest because they care, not because it’s convenient."
◈ The Timepassers : Here Today, Gone Tomorrow
These people enjoy the act of knowing others but rarely go deep. They thrive on stories, gossip, and the buzz of social interaction.
Like "The friend who always wants updates but disappears when things get serious, they’re there for the chatter, not the connection.
The rule of elimination reminds that being known isn’t the same as being understood. The real power lies in recognising who’s in it to connect, who’s in it to control and who’s just passing time and choosing where to invest energy accordingly.
The question isn't 'Who wants to know you?'
It's 'Why do they want to know you?'
Answer that
You'll never waste your Energy again!
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